Life Isn't Fair

I was browsing in my inbox clearing my mails. Spam mails and a lots of them. One particularly mail interests me. Its about life isn't fair. It strucked me.

What is fair?

Do you think this word makes any profounding statement? That this word runs through our mind and in the back of the mind tirelessly almost every moment we felt "bullied" into any situation. Then this word comes out, fairness, to justify our existence and smooths our bruised emotions.

Life's not fair...., that is my point.

Some men are borned with higher IQ while some are lacked of intelligence and social skills. Some men are borned with great looks like superstars and actors, while some are borned with"different" look, being looked down everytime he/she walks down the street.

Some people are borned without limbs, while some are borned with perfect limbs with an excuse, "oh! i can't do that!". Some people are borned white while some are dark skin, being discriminated, just becaused they are dark.

Some are borned into war zones like North Korea and there are nothing they can do about it. While some of us are lucky enough to be born with perfect-ness in the developed country with a good society.

Then how come in general, humans still perceived, fair, is a word that should be in our society?

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Let us grasp the truth for a moment here and implant this freaking word into the back of our mind. Our world is not FAIR. There is nothing in the world is FAIR.

Our society, our humanity and civilization in general, IMHO, are molded the exact same way the law of the jungle. The rule is, the strongest survived. This rule has been there for thousands of years.

(IMHO, humanity in general are even worst than animal. Humans kill for fun. Animals don't.)

Tell me, that life is fair.

Then, how come there are still people who perceived that life is fair or should be?

I believe the word fair comes embedded into our mindset from our early age. In the form of morality, civic-mind and religion education. Governments, religions leaders and so-called society leaders wants citizens to be morally binded and fairness is among the word programmed into our sub-conscious mind.

When you are morally binded, you tend to restrict yourself within this roadblocks and invisible boundaries. You tend to think its fair for someone to be punished when he is wrong. You reward someone when they are right. Therefore, its fair.

It is fair for the king to rule the country and imposed taxes on society as long as he is a good king. It is fair to let these so-called government leaders to make "fair" rules to each member of society as long as its "fair" for me.

How wrong you are!

Let me break it down to you:

1. Mental: People are generally weak. People like to fall back to a familiar territory, namely comfort zone. The friends they met, the things that they are used to do and etc. Its very comforting to be "who you are" and be comfortable to do the things like they are used to.

That is why, when a situation forced one to feel that they are being treated unfairly, people like to fall back to the situation and says "its unfair". It gives them the illusion of power and the illusion that someone listen to them.

It makes you feel better rather than guilt that you are indeed weak. No one wants to be in a situation that they are not in control of. Being treated unfairly makes them feel like they are not in control of their own destiny. Pros and cons, i believed.

When one chooses to embraced that, indeed, they are being treated unfairly and feels shit about it, they gain the control of power to change. Instead of blaming on someone else and uses the word fair to make you feels better, why not think about it seriously and make a change and adapt to the new circumstances?

2. Society: Those who are strong, adaptable and of course, smarter beings, will take note of the changes and feelings. When they know they are being treaten with "unfair-ness", they adapt and make logical steps. They know where they stand and where their position is. They take advantage of it and make use of it for their benefits or overall greater good or worst.

Those who are ahead of the rest of us, knows that there are no fair-ness. They understands this. For instance, a dictator in Africa are not willing to let go of their power and status despite of the conditions of the country, society and people. A wealthy man during the old days, will have slaves and peasants to carry out the work for them and opposed any form of education for a peasant.

Why do you think that would happen? Fairness? How about control?

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So how do we proceed from here? Do we still think that there are actually fairness in any given situation, in general?

(Thats why i said earlier that, man are indeed worst than animal, in this sense. They are willing to kill each other for fun and control.)

Since the rise of industrial age and information age, the rules of the game is changed. There are opportunities for change now. We are only bound in papers to our birth place, ie. citizenship rather than our level of status, ie peasant or slave. We have an opportunity and choice to even change the citizenship if we choose to. Of course, there are some places still, that color of race dictates your destiny.

Ultimately, IMHO, i believe that our choices are dictated from within. The stuff between your ears. Your solid matter to think and understand. Your brain and mindset.

If you understand and believes that "fair" is indeed just a word that does not make sense it this world, why hang on to it? Why not make it work for you.

Diminish the word "fair" from your mind and force another word into your brain, "advantageous". Whenever when you felt treaten on your territory involving the word fair, try to think of the next step to be in an advantageous position. Do not blame and says its not fair, instead, say i will change and adapt to be better, stronger and advantageous.

Don't think that there should be fairness and anything should be fair to you. That you should indeed have your pay-rise and promotion. We know that there are no such thing.

Instead, try to think that you can make some choices now to change your future to be better, stronger and advantageous for you. Smart people make use of their relationship, emotional, mindset, physical and power to gain an advantage of any given circumstances.

You think cheating to win is a bad thing? Thats how a human survived anyway. Its how those who has an open mind, not bound to any restriction, have this ability to adapt and change, and most importantly survived. Its not your neighbour nor anyone else, to tell you that cheating is bad. Its your own feelings, your beliefs and your mindset that governs you. Perhaps its your religion too.

The world is a chaos place and human nature itself is a chaos. Do not believe that fairness will comes and happens upon you.

Afterall, we are only humans :)

Raining Weekend

We were planning for a couple of days. In the back of the mind, was this little so-called weekend getaway plan to Shanghai. To relax, enjoy and savour the moment in the weekend in Shanghai.


Alas, it boils down to mother nature, i guess. Arghhh.....! Need to cancel the plan now!


Maybe chill in sleepy town? Going to Night Jasmine for a couple of glass of Dunkel? Or perhaps going for a soothing deep oil aromatherapy massage at Sawadika? Maybe hit the gym and get-the-ass-moving-cardio over the weekend? Should i get a nice lil' tattoo that i wanted to get?


Gooosh!


*Very undecided now*

Shanghai: Cha's Restaurant

When i 1st read the review and the description of this place, i was like ok. I must try and explore this. The prices is right, the food is right, the place is right and everything else seems secondary. The name is Cha's.

I got to know this cafe from SmartShanghai's radar. Cha is located right behing H&M store in Huaihai Lu. The full address is 30 Sinan Lu by Huaihai Lu. It is opened from 11am to 2am. Perfect time for tea during the weekend or supper after clubbing time in Fuxing Park.

Head there during the daylight mast shopping in Huaihai Lu for a butter toast, head there knowingly that there is a decent joint to "lepak" at. Some might prefer ice Lemon Coke though! I prefer Ice Coffee x2 with a Dunhill Lights between my fingers for a chill cool puff under the aircon! Freaking fantastic.




Not Char Siew Pao. But rather Cha Chan Teng's that is famous in Hong Kong. Everyone that speaks cantonese would like to hangout here i think. Its decor is classic with a twist. Its waiter/waitress are dressed like one that serves you drinks in Hong Kong as well. The tiles on the floors resembles one from there too. Even the menu board is a LCD TV disguises as a black board with wood frame. How cool!



Well. The food is reasonably cheap in the current Shanghai standard. Where can you find a set meal with a ice cool coffee/tea, with a slice of butter toast, scrambled eggs with ham/bacon and either a nissin/macaroni with ham for a measley RMB30 kuai. Its like a long lost heaven appear out of nowhere to save our soul from Bi Feng Tang and Xin Wang.



I personally think its cool and classic. Its a superb place for hippies-ala-cantonese speaking crowd in Shanghai to hang out here. Its called yum cha, btw. In Guangzhou, they yum cham with dim sum with chinese tea. In Kuala Lumpur, they drink at mamak stall that serve teh tarik and roti prata or known as India Fly Pie here.



How do they served something in between? Cha Chan Teng in a Hong Kong style mode! We have such restaurants in Kuala Lumpur during the booming days. You can see Kim Gary and a few others that have same Hong Kong style cafes mushrooming all around town. Only then, came the Old Town coffee hyperbole later.

Back to the this restaurant, go on and try it. A very reasonable affair with nice touch from the owners of this Cha's. Everything is new here. Aircon is cold. Smoke is in the air. Nissin is served on the bowl. You know you have a satisfied customer when they clear up the table in 10. Not even left over a single strand of noodle!

Check out this link for Cha's further info. They even have a good decent review done less than 1 month open. Personally, I rate this place A MUST Return! Gawd! Should i head there again soon? I know i need and i will.

For Cha's, keep up the good work and improve further!

Technosexuality, Gadgets and New Age Man

Technosexuality: a dandy narcissist in love with not only himself, but also his urban lifestyle and gadgets; a straight man who is in touch with his feminine side but has fondness for electronics such as cell phones, PDA’s, computers, software, and the web.

In other words, a cool geek.

Hey! Thats Ian Lagac and your humbly, me. Muahahahahaha!

Seriously, back to the point. I believe the emergence of this class of individual is not too surprising given then any ubersexual or metrosexual will eventually matures and evolve. Males and alpha males living in the metropolis, both straights and otherwise, working or not, making their dreams come true or just laying around chilling out, must equipped with the latest gadget. You name it and they got it.




Smartphones like Blackberry, Iphone, Palm Pre. Mobile mp3 like Ipod Nano, Ipod Touch, Sony Walkman. Camera such as DSLR, Sony, Canon Ixus and Leica M8. Netbooks and Macbooks are the words these days. These are here to stay.

As Charles Darwin once quoted,"It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change."

Look around you, that if its you are reading this now at Starbucks with a wireless netbook sipping that latte, and see for yourself. Ask yourself this,"Is that guy gay? Is the guy sitting next to me straight?" You could not have seen more examples of these in any metropolis, anywhere between Tokyo to Shanghai from Manila to Singapore. Techno-males are here and they are everywhere.



Goodbye beard. Adios to rugged-ol-fitting-torn jeans. Sayonara to messy oily hair srinkled with dandruff. Au revoir to camping hiking boots in Starbucks. Welcome smartphones and Iphones. Huanyin to Ipods and Itouch 16G. Selamat datang to Macbook Air and Netbooks 10".

Gadgets are here to stay. Imagine your journey in a tube 10 feet underground travelling at 30 miles an hour. Look around you. How many instances that you are able to see individuals with wires hooked to their Ipod. How many of these young males staring at their PSP? Aplenty, that is.

Look at your friends with the latest smartphones (btw, PDA is a cliche and so-old-school gadget by now, which generation are you from, you say?) Everyone wants a Wii, gotten a PS2 and having that kick-ass 42" LCD TV in their living room. All of us wanted that new stylish DSLR or M8 Leica camera. Of course, some of us wants a simpler Sony slim pinkish camera in color to match with their bags.

The emergence of these category of people is here. They are no lie and they are equipped with latest news and information. They blog and they Facebook. They upload their latest photos online and they share like no tomorrow.


Catch up, ol' man or end up like the PDA, ol' skool.

Welcome to the new world.

Update 1: Read this too. Girl Like Gadgets More Than Boys?

Smartphone: Palm Pre

OMG! This article makes my day. It further reinforce my decision to dump dumb-dumb freaking phone forever and uses something smart, something sleeky, something cool but yet not like a nerd.

Any idea?

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Palm Pre!

I love this piece of plastic. Are they available on GSM yet?


I need this!

How can you not like it? Its a business phone without boundaries. Loaded with features such as push email and IM messaging, layered calender and linked contacts, multi-tasking at its bests by opening several application simultaneously, Wi-Fi GPS and 3G, Palm services and etc.



Its a smart phone at its bests.

Look at the breakthrough design and the pictures! Lovely, ain' it?


I am so gonna get 1! When GSM version is available? Check here for their kick-ass phone.

Pictures courtesy of Palm.com

Cute Kids = Fashionista!

Long time never post nor blog anything. But came today, when i was browsing online, saw this album full of collection of pictures of a fashionista cute adorable boys age at 4-7, i think.

I think he/they are japanese/chinese boy who models for some clothing lines. If not, how do you explain the fashion and the dressings?!?!?!

Check it out!

1. This looks like a cute kid with a neck scarf and a blue shirt. He looks cute in this picture.

2. This looks like a junior lifeguard with a damn cool sunglasses with a yellow strap bag, white sleeveless shirt and a yellow floral bermuda pants to match his bag. Damn cool!

3. This picture is a happy picture. A happy smiling boy with a red winter vest, a red cap and a stripe shirt. Makes everyone hearts melt!

4. This picture portraits an active kids with a nice dark/black denim with crisp white shirt.

5. This is damn cool la. Nice faded old school denim with a blue overhead sweater, a red beanie and a cute pouted lips expression.

6. This is so korean style. White crisp shining shoe, dark denim, white shirt, beige beanie with a matching beige scarf. Nice!

7. I like this the mosts. His dressings, his fashions and his expression gives a notch above the word COOLNESS. Its above coolness! Intellectual black rim glasses, white pants, colored stripe shirt, purple scarf to make him standout in the fashion crowd and a white NY hat. Super cool!

8. This is a couple photo with a matching jacket, brown jacket that looks like a leather. A faded denim, a checkered shirt and a brown shoes to match his overall appearance!

9. This looks like a future fashionable Harvard student with a blue beanie, a black rim glasses, a blue shirt layered over a white tee, a brown pants and a black sneakers! Even his watch is a blue digital that matches with his blue tee!

10. Dark cap, dark denim, green jacket and a cute look! What else you need?

11. Army pants, brown sweater, sling bag, red cap and a bad boy long cute looking hairstyle!

12. This is an adorable shot. A cowboy hat, a Abercrombie blue shirt, a wrist band and a silver chain necklace.

13. Faded denim, checkered shirt, white long sleeve tee, white hat and a black rim glasses with a cool cute look and a backpack. This photo reminds me of a Korean university student.

14. Adorable shot with big red apple on the chest with a matching red cap and a army bermuda. Damn adorable!

15. This is extremely fashionable with good layering sense. Checkered neck scarf matching with striped black and white tee. Blue tee wore over it. Accompanied with a smile and you have a million bucks photo! Great!

16. This is cool look. Faded denim, brown sneakers, checkered shirt, bow tie, black rim glasses, blue cap matching the blue watch, a cool pose lean against the wall with a kick ass superly cool expression! Damn! He's good!

These collection is great! Which picture do you like best?

I personally likes photo number 7 the most. A cool look with white NY hat, glasses and purple scarf. Extremely cool!

Doctors Advise

I love this Doctor

Q: Doctor, I've heard that cardiovascular exercise can prolong life; is this true? !
A: Your heart is only good for so many beats, and that's it... don't waste them on exercise. Everything wears out eventually. Speeding up your heart will not make you live longer; that's like saying you can extend the life of your car by driving it faster. Want to live longer? Take a nap.

Q: Should I cut down on meat and eat more fruits and vegetables?
A: You must grasp logistical efficiencies. What does a cow eat? Hay and corn. And what are these? Vegetables. So a steak is nothing more than an efficient mechanism of delivering vegetables to your system. Need grain? Eat chicken. Beef is also a good source of field grass (green leafy vegetable). And a pork chop can give you 100% of your recommended daily allowance of vegetable products.

Q: Should I reduce my alcohol intake?
A: No, not at all. Wine is made from fruit. Brandy is distilled wine, that means they take the water out of the fruity bit so you get even more of the goodness that way. Beer is also made out of grain. Bottoms up!

Q: How can I calculate my body/fat ratio?
A: Well, if you have a body and you have fat, your ratio is one to one. If you have two bodies, your ratio is two to one, etc.

Q: What are some of the advantages of participating in a regular exercise program?
A: Can't think of a single one, sorry. My philosophy is: No Pain...Good!

Q: Aren't fried foods bad for you?
A: YOU'RE NOT LISTENING!!! .... Foods are fried these days in vegetable oil. In fact, they're permeated in it. How could getting more vegetables be bad for you? !

Q: Will sit-ups help prevent me from getting a little soft around the middle?
A: Definitely not! When you exercise a muscle, it gets bigger. You should only be doing sit-ups if you want a bigger stomach.

Q: Is chocolate bad for me?
A: Are you crazy? HELLO Cocoa beans! Another vegetable!!! It's the best! feel-good food around!

Q: Is swimming good for your figure?
A: If swimming is good for your figure, explain whales to me.

Q: Is getting in-shape important for my lifestyle?
A: Hey! ! 'Round' is a shape!

Well, I hope this has cleared up any misconceptions you may have had about food and diets.

And remember: 'Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO HOO, What a Ride'

AND.....For those of you who watch what you eat, here's the final word on nutrition and health.

It's a relief to know the truth after all those conflicting nutritional studies.

1. The Japanese eat very little fatand suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

2. The Mexicans eat a lot of fatand suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

3. The Chinese drink very little red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

4. The Italians drink a lot of red wineand suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

5. The Germans drink a lot of beers and eat lots of sausages and fats and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

CONCLUSION

Eat and drink what you like. Speaking English is apparently what kills you.

Wahahahahahaha! LoL. I think i have to speak more mandarin or french from now onwards!!! LMAO!