Life Isn't Fair

I was browsing in my inbox clearing my mails. Spam mails and a lots of them. One particularly mail interests me. Its about life isn't fair. It strucked me.

What is fair?

Do you think this word makes any profounding statement? That this word runs through our mind and in the back of the mind tirelessly almost every moment we felt "bullied" into any situation. Then this word comes out, fairness, to justify our existence and smooths our bruised emotions.

Life's not fair...., that is my point.

Some men are borned with higher IQ while some are lacked of intelligence and social skills. Some men are borned with great looks like superstars and actors, while some are borned with"different" look, being looked down everytime he/she walks down the street.

Some people are borned without limbs, while some are borned with perfect limbs with an excuse, "oh! i can't do that!". Some people are borned white while some are dark skin, being discriminated, just becaused they are dark.

Some are borned into war zones like North Korea and there are nothing they can do about it. While some of us are lucky enough to be born with perfect-ness in the developed country with a good society.

Then how come in general, humans still perceived, fair, is a word that should be in our society?

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Let us grasp the truth for a moment here and implant this freaking word into the back of our mind. Our world is not FAIR. There is nothing in the world is FAIR.

Our society, our humanity and civilization in general, IMHO, are molded the exact same way the law of the jungle. The rule is, the strongest survived. This rule has been there for thousands of years.

(IMHO, humanity in general are even worst than animal. Humans kill for fun. Animals don't.)

Tell me, that life is fair.

Then, how come there are still people who perceived that life is fair or should be?

I believe the word fair comes embedded into our mindset from our early age. In the form of morality, civic-mind and religion education. Governments, religions leaders and so-called society leaders wants citizens to be morally binded and fairness is among the word programmed into our sub-conscious mind.

When you are morally binded, you tend to restrict yourself within this roadblocks and invisible boundaries. You tend to think its fair for someone to be punished when he is wrong. You reward someone when they are right. Therefore, its fair.

It is fair for the king to rule the country and imposed taxes on society as long as he is a good king. It is fair to let these so-called government leaders to make "fair" rules to each member of society as long as its "fair" for me.

How wrong you are!

Let me break it down to you:

1. Mental: People are generally weak. People like to fall back to a familiar territory, namely comfort zone. The friends they met, the things that they are used to do and etc. Its very comforting to be "who you are" and be comfortable to do the things like they are used to.

That is why, when a situation forced one to feel that they are being treated unfairly, people like to fall back to the situation and says "its unfair". It gives them the illusion of power and the illusion that someone listen to them.

It makes you feel better rather than guilt that you are indeed weak. No one wants to be in a situation that they are not in control of. Being treated unfairly makes them feel like they are not in control of their own destiny. Pros and cons, i believed.

When one chooses to embraced that, indeed, they are being treated unfairly and feels shit about it, they gain the control of power to change. Instead of blaming on someone else and uses the word fair to make you feels better, why not think about it seriously and make a change and adapt to the new circumstances?

2. Society: Those who are strong, adaptable and of course, smarter beings, will take note of the changes and feelings. When they know they are being treaten with "unfair-ness", they adapt and make logical steps. They know where they stand and where their position is. They take advantage of it and make use of it for their benefits or overall greater good or worst.

Those who are ahead of the rest of us, knows that there are no fair-ness. They understands this. For instance, a dictator in Africa are not willing to let go of their power and status despite of the conditions of the country, society and people. A wealthy man during the old days, will have slaves and peasants to carry out the work for them and opposed any form of education for a peasant.

Why do you think that would happen? Fairness? How about control?

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So how do we proceed from here? Do we still think that there are actually fairness in any given situation, in general?

(Thats why i said earlier that, man are indeed worst than animal, in this sense. They are willing to kill each other for fun and control.)

Since the rise of industrial age and information age, the rules of the game is changed. There are opportunities for change now. We are only bound in papers to our birth place, ie. citizenship rather than our level of status, ie peasant or slave. We have an opportunity and choice to even change the citizenship if we choose to. Of course, there are some places still, that color of race dictates your destiny.

Ultimately, IMHO, i believe that our choices are dictated from within. The stuff between your ears. Your solid matter to think and understand. Your brain and mindset.

If you understand and believes that "fair" is indeed just a word that does not make sense it this world, why hang on to it? Why not make it work for you.

Diminish the word "fair" from your mind and force another word into your brain, "advantageous". Whenever when you felt treaten on your territory involving the word fair, try to think of the next step to be in an advantageous position. Do not blame and says its not fair, instead, say i will change and adapt to be better, stronger and advantageous.

Don't think that there should be fairness and anything should be fair to you. That you should indeed have your pay-rise and promotion. We know that there are no such thing.

Instead, try to think that you can make some choices now to change your future to be better, stronger and advantageous for you. Smart people make use of their relationship, emotional, mindset, physical and power to gain an advantage of any given circumstances.

You think cheating to win is a bad thing? Thats how a human survived anyway. Its how those who has an open mind, not bound to any restriction, have this ability to adapt and change, and most importantly survived. Its not your neighbour nor anyone else, to tell you that cheating is bad. Its your own feelings, your beliefs and your mindset that governs you. Perhaps its your religion too.

The world is a chaos place and human nature itself is a chaos. Do not believe that fairness will comes and happens upon you.

Afterall, we are only humans :)