Successful and Advice

Continued from the previous post.

I believe these advise will help too.

1. Focus Focus Focus. Keep on focus on the main objective. The target and the goal that you have set. Persevere, grit determination or simply "wouldn't let go of what you want" while remain focus on the goals that you have set, sets you apart from other joneses. Its not what we think, its not what we do, its what you have done (or the results) that counts.

A lot of people have tried and failed. A lot of people have thought about it. But only a selected few ever succeeded. Why do you think that happens? Accident, coincidence or simply never give up.

Remain focus to at your target and never let go despite of negativity, problems and everything that comes in the way. Never lose your sight of the target!

2. Think 3T. 1st T = Think Big. Everyone from anywhere around the globe will tell you these. If you want to succeed, in regardless of corporate ladder, entrepreneurship or business-wise, one of the main criteria is to think big. Small sailor on a small boat will never make it through the wild sea.

Be big! Think big and live large, said by Donald Trump. Its just a matter of perception and thinking between 100 dollars and 1000000 dollars. If you want to succeed in corporate world and climb the ladder, think big.

3. 2nd T = Think long term. Its very simple to think in front of you. Anyone with a pair of eyes can do that. But, by thinking long term and planning for the future that defines a visionary and successful person.

Think long term and plan for it, but focus on your everyday task and the things that you need to do to achieve it. Thats why we have short term goal, medium term goals and your long term goals.

4. 3rd T = Think positive. The world, the media everyday portraits the world full of negativity. How do you achieve positivity by reading more news? There is a saying, no news is good news! Hahaha. I agree to that.

Successful people stay positive at all times. Its like a super large you. Negative news just sort of zap at you, to makes you stay on the right path. Negative news should not be in your mind. It should not influence your thinking. Positivity should.

To stay positive, you need to start by changing you thinking a little bit each day. Start by telling yourself, especially when you feel down and felt negative, "ZAP IT!". Slap yourself. Cut the thinking. Your brain is sabotaging yourself. ZAP IT! Stay positive. Think positive. Think the happy times. Stay constructive. Tell yourself that you can. Even Mr Lee, your next door neighbour can make it, why not me?

These are some advise bits and parts that i carry with me within all the time. Its a learning experience and wisdom that i gathered. From my failures, from my readings, from my listenings, from my observations and from everything that i learned.

Why not take 5 minutes of your time to really think about what i have said and decide whether i make any sense?

Insecurity, Emotions and Fear

This post is personal. Its from within. Its actually the result of the Law of Newton, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. And this post is the opposite reaction for mel's post, complicated emotion.

1st-ly, i wanted to dissect the whole subject logically. Where did she get the feelings from? Why did she felt that way? What happen that makes her feels this way? Thousands of questions. Millions of answers. Billions of probabilities. One single truth. Insecurity + Fear.

I think that almost all females have these. It is built-in and within their genes. The un-defined chromosome that makes them feel insecure and needed re-assurance + guarantee to make them feel better. It is something that exists in woman, and of course, in some boys too. Its how woman do and react, have their 6th sense and their motherly instinct. It their survival skill.

That is where the part male species comes in. Males species homosapien has the lack of the understanding of how these things works. It is sort of empathy + sympathy. The feeling and the care that a man shows to provide care and understanding to woman. To make them feel better. Reassured. Makes them feels secure. To give them what they need, the feeling of re-assurance and security. Its in their genes.

Back to the story. Why does that Mel feels so emotionally challenged? I believe it comes from lack of directions and the constant changes evolves around her life and daily routine. Its the chaos and the stress level that comes from work and everyday life.

Generally, i believe when it comes to this scenario, where deep down inside your heart, when you feel insecured and lack of something to hold on to, you mis-react. They wanted to be busy. They believes that, if only, that they have more work and busier, things will be better. They believes that they have some-sort-of-karma-and-control that things will be eventually better. It is also dues to that when you feel you are busy with new challenges and new works, naturally you will feel "better" due to that you overcome new challenges and getting the praise that you deserved! You believe it works that way.

I think all of these are only fractionally true. It is not that i mean that you should laid back like an asshole doing nothing. It is also not that i mean you should not work like a horse to achieve what you wanted.

It is just that i believe that if you feel insecure and have a sort of fear, you have to look inside. Stop running. Stop thinking and believing that if you are to be in control more of any situation, things will get better. They don't!

The more you are trying to control. The more LIFE screw you up. The more you are trying to control things around you. The more YOU will screw things up. The more you are trying to control the people around you. The more HE/SHE will riot and screw up.

Then, not only you will micro-managed it, you are also expecting the results to be exact of what you wanted. You will wish to control 1001 things in your mind, things around you and people you love and care. You wanted to "believe" that by getting busy, be in control and by doing things fast and everything will makes things better. It won't. You will only make it worst.

Have you seen those scenario and real life cases before? I bet you would. Mothers who expects their children to perform up to their expectation, micro-managing it to the things they do and how they expect their child to behave. What happens next?

We created a monster or a poor soul. Either this monster will grow up to be a heartless person who do bad and nasty things to others or this little soul will have no courage and full of fear to meet the world and society outside. And all of these happens, is because the parents is fearful and insecure about their children's life.

Life sucks. Get over it. People die everyday. Be grateful that you still have this breath right now. Theres nothing you can do to make it better. The world is complex nor it is fair. Don't make it even more complicated that it has been.

What you need right now is:

1. Cool down. Try to cool down and slow down once a while. Do nothing in fact and read a book. Go to gym or do some exercise. Make your brain slow down. You will only then start to feel that you have a life. Feel your life. Afterall, you only live once. Why the hell you wanted to be so busy until you forgotten about your own life?

2. Look within thyself. Stop and do nothing. Think of nothing. City life is like that. Metropolitan lifestyle is faster than bullet train. Look within yourself and ask yourself. Is this what makes me feel this way? Am i who i am? Is this what i wanted? And the only you can ask yourself that, is when you cool down and be in peace with yourself.

3. Go yoga or go workout. I think by doing yoga and working out has its way to de-stress you. I have done that and i can feel it. Blast some techno and rock songs. Pump that muscle. Stretch your fatigued muscles after. Go to yoga. Try out the pilates. I tell you. The more you do, the more you will get addicted to the pain feeling of your muscles aching. Its like you muscles are telling you, that you are looking better, getting healthier and most importantly, you are INDEED ALIVE.

4. Have a broader understanding and a wider perspective of the world. That not EVERYTHING is within your control. That sometimes LIFE do workout to be different from what you expect it to be. That sometimes LIFE really sucks. That the fucker in front of you just cut your lane when you have the worst jam in your entire life. That the fucker just took your car park space when you are rushing for your urgent meeting. Bla bla bla.


Hey! Didn't i told you, LIFE sucks? But, be of no sad nor down. Sometimes it work out to be better. Just ask those fellas who went to work late in the New York Twin Tower during 9/11. Just ask those fella who are late to board the 4 flights in States on 9/11. Just ask those fellas who has life experiences encountering the worst, life taking experiences. This i can guarantee you, nothing else matters anymore.

Quote from Steve Jobs at here:

".. almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."


You can say that i am a eternally optimist or just vain. But hey, thats me! And it work out pretty fine. At least, i am feeling happier than most of those out there. At least i have made my achievements that i am pretty proud of. At least, i still optimist of the future in front of me. At least, i have done something proud in my life.

Last but not least, i am still happy, excited, proud, optimistic and feeling full of life! To capped this, i say Stay Hungry Stay Foolish!

Victoria Beckham Hairstyles

I am not making any suggestions. I just think the evolutionary of hair is really fantastic. Victoria Beckham hairstyle, IMHO, has been sort of an inspiration and guidelines for some modern edge cool sexy looking female.

I saw this hair and instantly, makes me wanna go and blog about it. From long curly hair to the current short style hair. I think it looks good on her. Hahaha. I think i will be labeled as "he-feminism", but what the heck? I just wanted to say that her hair looks great with her style. What do you think?

Her latest hairstyle at the opening ceremony of Armani Store in States

And some of her other hairstyles in the past, which IMHO, looks modern and stylish as well!

Shanghai: Bonito Tapas and Wine

Bonito Tapas and Wine Restaurant is definitely a place to be. End of discussion. *said with an definite tone*

We went there during the Xmas in 2008, which was a long time ago. Hahaha! The place is nice, ambience wise, its cool and classy. Food wise, its original, nice, tasty and definitely good. The service is good, english speaking staff. Wine list is long of more than 20 types of wines at least? Ranging from Chilean, French, Spanish, Australian and Californian wine from a very decent price starting from RMB19x ++, as i remembered. Sangria is tasty and good. Price wise, its decent given this range of price restaurant in Shanghai.


Bonito Tapas and Wine restaurant, the 1 we went is located in Luwan district. It is located in The Loft at 508 Jiashan Lu near Jianguo Xi Lu. Details at here here here and here.

Back to the story. We went there with a crowd of 7 individuals. 1 group of friends and 1 crazy gang. We ordered several dishes.

Lamb tapas is definitely nice and cook tenderly with original mint sauce. Meatball with potatoes is superbly nicely cook. Lamb skewer is nice. Ordered some duck dish as well, forgotten the name though. Tomatoes with mozzarella cheese. Beef fillet sort of steak. Breaded chicken with cheese, button mushrooms. The bread is home-cooked and is very nice. The seafood paella is nicely superbly delicious.

Sangria as an appetizer during food selection. A bottle of red merlot wine to satisfy our taste bud for red wine. French merlot. Damn nice. Less than RMB200! *eyes rolled up*

Our course, how can we not to enjoy? The crowd is fun, crazy and enjoyable. Look at the pictures. There is one saying, 1's an individual, 2 is company, 3 is fun and 7 would be, craziness!




I rate Bonito as 4.5/5 rating. The only fall back, food menu is still small, IMHO. But but but, the quality of the food is at the best! Go on and try for i will be going back there again, soon!


Bon Appetit!

Crazy, Delight, Fun and Enjoyable Moment

You know craziness when you see it. It is a very fine line differences between stupidity and craziness. I think sometimes i fall in between. Or maybe 1% to craziness. All the time!

Hahahahaha.






On a completely different note, when i was browsing the pictures and photos taken for the last couple of months, i choked when i saw this picture (please scroll down below). Hahahahaha!

There has been an appearance of an "assassin" here in ZJG during the winter. Fortunately, with my fast hands and good skills with the camera, i am able to capture the snapshot of "the lethal assassin".

Craziness moments! Hahahahaha!

My Dream: Sony Walkman NWZ A726

I dreamt of this. The imagination of the moment so sweet. Blasting you by my side, making me work and push through the pain barrier to accomplish my goals. Music so sweet to my ears. Bass so clear crisping loud and clear thumping that 200bpm into my ears making my adrenaline rush and my muscles contracts. So sweet!

I sweat profusely after. My legs, my calf, my glutes, my quad and my entire feet quivers and shakes. Its was tiring and muscle burning. God! You look so sweet and innocent, metallic looking staring at me. You glow and shines at your face, expressing your words to me.

You look at me, stared at me, without emotions, wondering, "what the fuck are you stopping?". You continued," don't you know that i can run for 30 over hours non-stop giving you the pleasure? And here you are stopping at just after 30 minutes gasping for air and muscles aches!" Fuck!






OOOOOOoooooooooi! Wake up!

Yes yes yes! I was dreaming about my new incoming soon to be have Sony Walkman NWZ A726. Hahahaha!

How not to like it??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?


1. Clear Audio Technologies - Ensuring that your left and right ear are proportionate of sound during that bass thumping sharp treble moments of your selected favourite songs are playing.

2. Clear Bass - Giving you no distortion what so ever for that smooth hard thumping sound through your ear-drum.

3. Digital Sound Enhancement Engine (DSEE) - To give you the quality of the music that you deserved after the MP3 ruins the quality of your music. You rocks!

4. 13.5mm Headphones that actually made and engineered to fit your ear-holes! Fuck. This is good. Perhaps they can squeeze 13.5 inch headphones into my head next time for even better quality sound!

And here i present you my dream, SONY WALKMAN NWZ A726.

I am waiting for you!

Romantic Sperm

I love kick-ass commercials. Hey! Could i be one of the creative guys as well? :P

Check this out, in the event of romantic Valentine's Day coming soon, guys, you need some extra inspiration. Gawd! I love the big white bang in the beginning and the smoothness of the spermie fella swimming with such cool moves. Hahahahaha!

Shanghai: Macau Portuguese Restaurant

This is way long long long overdue. This was during the last day on 2008 and here i am have a tiny little bit of time to edit the pictures and post it online. Gosh! But but but, i wanted to write a post about this and make some review about this place in Shanghai called Macau Portuguese Restaurant.

It is a typical Macau Portuguese inspired food cuisine located at 488 Xikang Lu near to Kangding Lu in Jingan district. Very nice location and good place indeed. Check our for more information at here. There has been also a review done for this restaurant from Smartshanghai at here.

Anyway, back to the story, around 10 of us reach there by 8 having a late dinner, very hungry, like a packed of wolf. I have made a reservation earlier to ensure that we have a decent table for the size of us. They have a pretty good english communicating staff and a Filipino manager, name Mia. We were given a room with a LCD TV and a karaoke set! Hahaha. For those singing birds during the dinner session perhaps.

We order a scrumptous meal. We whacked all the food and enjoy our dinner with delight. We ordered garlic bread, scores of appetizers and finger food before our main meal. We ordered mushroom soup, which is sort of nice and heavy with mushroom taste. We ordered baked rice with salmon diced, mixed grill, chicken chop, pork chop, pasta, grilled fish ala spicy style, curry chicken with rice and etc etc etc.





The food is pretty decent and like what they say, colonial style food originated from Macau Portuguese style cuisine. Price-wise, its decent and average at around or less at RMB100/person. Menu-wise, is extensive and huge choices to be choose from. Saliva dripping pictures!

Did i mentioned that they serve Philippines dishes too such as Adobo? In Shanghai? Well, its there. Oh yeah! They sell wines as well. Good for those who wanted to drink some wines before heading to party at some place later, though, not as good as wines in Bonito, which will be at another posts (later!)

Of course, not without the fun and mood of New Year coming down upon us. It was fantastic, fun, enjoyable and most importantly, filling and full!

I rate this restaurant at 3.5 star out of 5 star and i do not mind to go back there again to try some other dishes there.

Hungry Hungry!


ps: email me for Mia, the manager phone number, if you need.

Tips for HIM/HER on Valentine's Day

Well, on a lighter note and funny side of me, i suggests everyone goes to Smartshanghai.com and check out the tips and advise on what to do to spice up the Valentines Day. Her posts is funny and truly a eye-opener for those couples who are shy and very conservative on expressing their love.

Check out tips for her at here.

Check out advises for him at here.

Funny but true! Credits to Matsume.

:)

The V days is coming

3 more days. Thats the worst or almost-choke-dead word that every female species on the earth are associated with. It is the day when the roses boom, the chocolates are sold in tonnes, the flowers are hiked up in prices, the day where you simply walked into any restaurants without reservations and find yourself no seats and the day you felt so frustrated with the amount of $ you will spend for each and another, for the sake of the feeling and a global celebration that is overly-hyped!

Yes! St Valentines Day. The day that every newly-togethered-couple with hold their hands, with the sweat at their palms, like a lovely couple. The day when old couples at the age of 60 still holding their hands sitting at their home's balcony embracing each others arms, smiling at each others wrinkles and laugh at their silly little things they have done during their last 40 years of marriage.

For some, it is a cherished day. For some, it is a dreaded day. OMG! Money to be spend again buying some same old stuff to be given away for their partner in a day where millions of couples globally will be buying the same things to be given to each other. Roses, flowers, chocolates, sweets, dinners, movies, and sex after. God! A resemblence of me. Hahaha. Such a boring old me.

C'mon! For man's perspective point of view, generally speaking, ahem! How is it that there are so many celebrations and dates to be associated with, in 365 days a year to celebrate the thing you called "love"? Ain't it simpler and much more loving to love each other everyday and show your care and share through out every weekend cuddling each other on the soft warm sofa in front of TV. Feeding each other with ice-cream, chocolate and a glass of Merlot.

No. It is not enough, as according to some females. Love are meant to be celebrated! Yeah. Its true. There is 2 birthdays in a year, 1 wedding date, 1 dating date, 1 Chinese valentines day, 1 Xmas day, 1 Valentine's day, 1 New year day and other days that you can associated with in 365 days a year for the Love Celebration Day. Thats 8 days ++ If you are to logical divide it with 12 months, you will be celebrating Love once every 1 month. Almost.


But, for a woman's point of view, of course, the more the better, ain't it?

But no, i believe the woman and female generations of our new era have a different point of view. Slightly different on the outside. They are more empowered and more intelletual, so to speak, compared to 30 years ago. They appreciate the relationship more in a different way. Perhaps it is due to the changes in settings, circumstances in life and the way a woman lives her life in this era of cosmopolitan and city life.

They read more, they have more opinions and ideas, they fight for their rights and they are growing stronger and demands more for their birth right. I totally agree with this. We are homosapiens and born with instincts in us. Yes. Each one of us! Thus, the breed of a new generation of woman who is better and smarter.

Of course, i do not deny it that deep down within a woman's heart that every one longs for their prince charming, who will gallop in their suits and armors. If we are to convert this image into modern day, would it be a handsome man with a Ferrari? Not sure about this though. But, generally speaking, i believe a majority of women still believes in love and marriage.

Good for us, mankind! The need to improve as a MAN and determination of the size of your EGO lies up in your head above, not by the length and size of your cock. The need to improve mentally and to grow wiser up in the head with the brain. Meet the new breed of men, wiser men, i believe.

For couples, women and men, yes! celebrate more and cherish the moment more with each other during this special coming V day. Embrace and enjoy the feeling more than ever. The intense and the sizzling at the arm of each another. The heartbeat, the memories and the adrenaline rush that everyone is looking for. For you may hope that the love does not change and the world remains at standstill. For that piece of happy memory when you look back behind 30 years later. That you have done the right thing. For being happy on the Valentines day in 2009.

For those lonely women, single women and other mens, out there living in the city of metropolitan, fear not. Woman are best of buddies and accompanied with each other laughing and smiling after the days work. Be of no afraid. You are truly better and deserved a better accompanion of friends who are lonely as well. Why be UNHAPPY when you can have the best of friends who shares and cares for each one and another during the special day of St Valentines Day. Cherish the moments of happiness in V day in 2009, as well!

Last but not least, i personally believes that life are meant to be happy. In whatever you do, wherever you live and whenever you are.


I wish you a VERY HAPPY and Delighted HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

Always Check Your Child Homework!

I have recently received a lot of forwarded emails from everywhere. Some of them are simply meaningless, some of them provide some healthy information, some of them are just some forwarded emails and etc. But, i love those jokes that makes the rest of your day brighter and happier, from the stress of work. Hahaha.


Check this one out.


The title is "Always check your child homework!"


Dear Mrs. Jones,


I wish to clarify that I am not now, nor have I ever been, an exotic dancer. I work at Home Depot and I told my daughter how hectic it was last week before the blizzard hit. I told her we sold out every single shovel we had, and then I found one more in the back room, and that several people were fighting over who would get it. Her picture doesn't show me dancing around a pole. It's supposed to depict me selling the last snow shovel we had at Home Depot.From now on I will remember to check her homework more thoroughly before she turns it in.


Sincerely,

Mrs. Smith

My Personal DNA: Attentive Director

I am a Attentive Director.

According to my personal DNA match up at here, My personalDNA Report.

Attentive Director

This is me:

You are a Director

As a DIRECTOR, you combine an unusual openness and passion for beauty and style with confidence and a down-to-earth sensibility that allow you to realize your vision.

You are practical and pay attention to the details that others tend to miss.

By focusing on what is real and concrete, you achieve more than those who always have their heads in the clouds.

When it comes to what really matters in your life, you are confident in your ability to succeed.

Having beautiful things in your life gives you pleasure and satisfaction - you have a keen eye for style.

Even when problems present themselves, deep down you know you will overcome these challenges.

When routines get too familiar, you become bored and start looking for ways to spice things up.

You are open to new types of experiences – you are not afraid to take a risk on something new.

You have a highly developed sense of taste – you know what looks good on you, in your home, and in the world at large.

Your independent streak allows you to make decisions efficiently and to trust your instincts

You're not afraid to let your emotions guide you, and you're generally considerate of others' feelings as well.

You tend to do things on the spur of the moment, not sticking to a set schedule.

You have a strong sense of style and value your personal presentation - friends may even seek your style advice from time to time.

Generally, you believe that you control your life, and that external forces only play a limited role in determining what happens to you.

If you want to be different:
Occasionally let yourself dream a little more, even if it doesn't seem practical or efficient.

How I relate to others:

You are Attentive

Because you like spending time with others, understand their feelings, and often know what is best for them, you are ATTENTIVE.

Some people are merely concerned about others, but you take action, helping people when you have the opportunity.

Although you care about others, you are hesitant to trust them to act in the best way on their own.

You don't let your concerns with people go unnoticed: if someone has hurt your feelings, that person will hear about it.

People energize and excite you—you are able to have fun and be yourself when you're around others.

You also learn a lot about yourself by talking things out with people, even if you don't always share things that are important to you.

You have a strong sense of right and wrong, and you're not hesitant to express yourself.

Understanding the dynamics of a situation is an important skill that you have, and you often intervene to clarify things for others.

If you want to be different:

You care about people, but finding the ones you can truly trust will allow you to get closer to them.

While you have strong opinions about what is right and wrong in the world, you risk coming across as judgmental—be sure to consider different perspectives when voicing your opinion.

I am 99.99%, thinks that this is me. Only 99.99%!

How about you? Go on and take the test yourself and tell me the results.

China Counterfeit Fake Products

I was browsing some randomly online, and i came across these pictures. Almost choke myself laughing! Wahahahaha.

Have a nice laugh! Bucksstars Ice Latte, anyone?